It is natural that we have expectations. However, we must ask ourselves how far WE are prepared to meet up to our own our expectations? How far can others meet up with our expectations? This world (idealistic) that we have created is one thing and what we are realizing is another thing. Unfulfilled expectations can force us to create wounds in relation to our own behavior and in relation to the behavior of others. What are your expectations of yourself and others for a given situation? Are you expecting more than is realistic for this person in this particular situation? Examine your underlying expectations about what you need to be happy and live the type of life you want. Examine your expectations from others. Perhaps you have higher (or different) standards than others. Perhaps you expect others to follow them as well as yourself. You may even be right. However, these are your expectations of others--not theirs. They are who they are, and one root of displeasure is not accepting people (or events) as they are. Expectation from the "Entitlement thinking" perspective – This expectation is the cause of a deep sense of powerlessness and prolonged resentment about being treated "unfairly." It is the deepest source of many people's dissatisfaction. Our expectation is the key to our feelings. The happiness doctrine states that I will choose that which contributes most to my and others' happiness. I accept that my life and all my options are a gift. If I compare my gifts to others'--especially to those that have more--I will only reduce my appreciation of my own gifts. The happiness doctrine does not imply that we will not be assertive about enforcing contracts or other agreements that have been made with others. We can build rewards and punishments into contracts and take actions that reward and punish others to motivate them if necessary. That is not the same as enforcing a contract out of fairness or to get even.
Our expectation is to know that we are made strong in the Source (God). The Source (God)gives us strength for our weakness, our fears are turned to hope, anger to forgiveness and bitterness to love. “In the dark nights of the soul, that we slow down, brought into tense reflection, that we see things in the darkness we would never see in the light.” [St. John of the Cross - Dark Night of the Soul] -Our expectation is to sense even more the presence of the Truth in the midst of it all, that we chose to let it draw us closer, rather than away from Love and in that, peace and happiness will be within us. My personal expectation is to take a few minutes of my time each morning just to learn to be friendly to myself:
1. Learning to open my heart like opening a flower–And I feel myself as my best friend.
2. Feel it in every part of my body, my whole being and wishing myself that I will be well physically and mentally.
3. Feel the peace and the stillness in the moment.
4. Choose EMPATHETIC UNDERSTANDING over assuming the worst intentions.
5. Choose UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE CARING over insensitivity.
6. Take CONSTRUCTIVE ENERGETIC ACTIONS to help get rid of the steam inside, and remember, there is inherent justice for harmful behaviors and most of all, remember, EVERY MOMENT OF ANGER IS ONE LESS MOMENT OF HAPPINESS.
7. Let joy and hope spread throughout the universe, and let all start with me.

----------------------What are your expectations?
Author: Windsor-
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Windsor Lindor Inspiration and Performance Coach
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